Anti-patterns
- Vague asks: “Would love to connect” with no reason.
- Bait-and-switch: “Just advice” → “Actually, can you refer me?” in the same call.
- Attachment overload: 7MB resume + portfolio + slide deck on first contact.
- Spray-and-pray: same generic message to 50 people (someone will screenshot it).
- Calendar link first message: feels transactional; earn it.
- Negging yourself: “Sorry to bother you” x3. Be respectful, not apologetic.



